Pam Leo’s book, Connection Parenting, begins a bit differently from many other books. Individuals new to the subject of gentle parenting or consensual living will be happy to read that parents are doing the best they can with the information, resources, and support they have at any given time. While you may feel regret about how you have parented in the past, there is no need to feel guilt about it.
Her focus on connecting with our children is an important message. When we aren’t connected with our children, we are disconnected with them, affecting our communication and interactions. In today’s rushed society, most children don’t receive a large quantity of time with parents. While they may receive some quality time, that is different than connection time.
The concepts in Connection Parenting are nothing new to those familiar with consensual living. While there are some nice reminders in the book, it probably has the greatest value for those just beginning their journey into this style of parenting. Much of the book focuses on the connection parents have with their young children. That is a very important aspect of our lives with young children and a foundation for the rest of our relationship with them, but I wish that more time had been devoted toward having a connection with older children. Older children may not rely on us for as many things as their younger counterparts, but their need for connection is no less.