A Mama Blessing

I recently hosted a Mama Blessing for a friend. I firmly believe that every baby should be celebrated. I’m not really into a lot of ritual, and thankfully, neither is my friend. It took a lot of the pressure off of hosting and I was able to adapt a couple of typical mama blessing activities.

While many people send candles home with guests to light when the mother goes into labor, I just couldn’t bring myself to do that. Labor is a private event for me. I know I personally would never want people watching the clock when I was in labor or to feel like I was performing in any way, shape, or form. I also balked a bit at the idea of having the mother tie cords around guest’s wrists, to be taken off when they showed up to help the mother out in some way after the birth. I want to help others out of generosity and kindness rather than some feeling of indentured servitude or expectation.

Instead, I decided to combine these two rituals with a twist. Everyone at the attending was a friend of the mother. We each chose a color of embroidery floss that we felt either represented us or represented something we wished for the mother of honor. Each strand was tied onto a candle for the mother to take home and use as she felt fit – either as a reminder of friendship or as a calming presence during labor.

I will also admit to never really understanding a birthing necklace. I can’t quite wrap my brain around what one would actually do with a birthing necklace. Perhaps it comes from my inclination to walk around the house stark naked while in labor. My friend is an avid knitter, so I thought it would be cool to make stitch markers out of beads. Each guest brought a bead for the mother. While I put all of the stitch markers on a cord to take them home, in case she did actually want to use it for some birthing purpose, they will long be used as a reminder of the love and support of friends.

4 thoughts on “A Mama Blessing

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  1. I also really like your stitch marker idea! A very creative alternative.

    I was a little surprised that the wrist cord tradition is done in the way you described! I had never seen it interpreted that way. In my experience the cords are all wrapped around the wrists of friends with a single strand in a circle and the mother circles around and separates the cord between each person and they tie it themselves. The cord is then kept on until the mother’s successful birth as a symbol of unity and support, and then removed by the individual when the labor is over. I also don’t like the idea of it symbolizing a favor owed. That doesn’t seem very inductive of genuine support.

    Your candle idea is also beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

    Sincerely,
    Emily

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