This post is written as part of the Round Table Discussions with Natural Parent Network volunteers. In an effort to discuss, support, and promote a kinder, more gentle world, we are taking an in depth view of various books. Our current book is No Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph. D, authors of the book The Whole Brain Child. We hope you will join us with an open mind and a desire for change and growth.
You know you want to keep calm and connect with your children when things begin to go South, but what can you do to change the situation and help them learn? The authors of No Drama Discipline have provided a handy way to remember some very useful techniques: R-E-D-I-R-E-C-T. You can read a more in-depth explanation of each technique on my post at Natural Parents Network, but as a quick reminder in the moment, check out this free printable (click on link to print your own copies):
Reduce Your Words Keep your words short and to the point.
Embrace Emotions Acknowledge feelings and help your children put a name to what they are feeling.
Describe, Don’t Preach Use simple declarative statements to bring attention to situations.
Involve Your Child in the Discipline Discipline is about learning. Actively involve your children in this learning process.
Reframe a No into a Conditional Yes Try rewording what you say to make your child receptive rather than reactive to your words.
Emphasize the Positive Focus on the positive things you want your child to learn rather than the negative behavior.
Creatively Approach the Situation Novelty garners attention. Grab your child’s attention by switching things up.
Teach Mindsight Tools Help your children learn the skills to recognize feelings, assess a situation, and make a positive change.