The lifelong journey of asking questions and of exploration is just as, if not more, important as where we end up. Try not to focus on preparing your children for life but on living life with them. Embrace the journey.
look for a solution…
Don't be so intent on finding fault or placing blame. Energy would be much better spent finding a solution.
two wrongs don’t make a right…
Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites which cancel one another out. They enforce each other,breeding resentment, hurt feelings, and more of the same. No matter how you look at it, two wrongs don't make a right.
love sees the best…
Love sees the best in people. When we give people credit for having good intentions, we highlight their positive aspects and encourage them to be better.
coping mechanisms to parental power…
Children's coping mechanisms to deal with parental power: Resistance, defiance, rebellion, and negativity. People will fight back when their freedom is threatened. Resentment, anger, and hostility. People want to be in control of themself. When others hold power over them, they feel resentful. Aggression, retaliation, and striking back. Parental domination via authority leads to frustration.... Continue Reading →
if they are young enough to ask for it…
We've all heard the phrase "If they are old enough to ask for it, they are too old to nurse." There is absolutely no logic to it, and it only goes to show the ignorance of the person spouting it. Babies ask to nurse from the day they are born. They cry, root, and open... Continue Reading →
Gibran, the prophet…
Just because this deserves to be posted..... Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For... Continue Reading →
the no-lose method…
The no-lose method of conflict resolution allows everyone to work together in order to find mutually agreed upon solutions which work for everyone. First, you must set the stage for how the no-lose method will work: Begin by telling your child clearly and concisely that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. Make... Continue Reading →
conflict: the no-lose method (part4)…
The no-lose method of conflict resolution allows parents to discover what is really going on with the child. When you use your power to enforce your own solutions, you don't unveil the true underlying feelings and needs. In order to deal with an issue, you have to know what the real problem is first. Once you have... Continue Reading →
conflict: parent 0, child 1 (part 3)…
The other win/lose method of conflict resolution involves the child winning while the parent loses, as seen in permissive parenting. In an effort not to be authoritarian, the parent does not enforce his/her own personal boundaries or talk to the child about behavior. These children are often wild, uncontrolled (self-control), and impulsive. Lacking the opportunity to think... Continue Reading →
living peacefully with children 