Conflict is a course of life, occurring whenever two parties have different agendas or different perceived agendas. What matters is not the conflict itself but how that conflict is resolved. Parents don't have to resort to win-lose methods with either the parent or child winning while the other loses. When parents work together with their children,... Continue Reading →
When Children Don’t Listen
Photo by Dru Bloomsfield"You aren't listening to me." "Please listen." "Listen to what I am saying." Most parents have uttered, or at the very least thought, one of these phrases or something similar at some point. It's usually said in frustration. However, when we say this to our children, we don't really mean that they... Continue Reading →
the no-lose method…
The no-lose method of conflict resolution allows everyone to work together in order to find mutually agreed upon solutions which work for everyone. First, you must set the stage for how the no-lose method will work: Begin by telling your child clearly and concisely that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. Make... Continue Reading →
conflict: the no-lose method (part4)…
The no-lose method of conflict resolution allows parents to discover what is really going on with the child. When you use your power to enforce your own solutions, you don't unveil the true underlying feelings and needs. In order to deal with an issue, you have to know what the real problem is first. Once you have... Continue Reading →