Focusing on negativity yields more negativity. There is nothing that brings a party down more than a negative person. When we focus on negative aspects of our children's behavior, it keeps the focus on negativity. If we, instead, focus on positive solutions, parents and children can work together to find ways to solve problems.
In her book Positive Discipline, Jane Nelsen approaches the topics of gentle and non-punitive parenting from an Adlerian point of view. She introduces the four R's of punishment - resentment, revenge, rebellion, and retreat - and focuses her version of positive discipline as one which works toward mutually acceptable goals and solutions. The book has a lot... Continue Reading →