Book Review: No Drama Discipline

no drama disciplineFor many years now, I would have told you that my absolute top two parenting book recommendations would be Between Parent and Child by Dr. Haim Ginott and Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon. They are both fantastic books about moving away from punishments and rewards and instead working with your children, with advice and techniques included, something many parents feel is lacking in gentle discipline books.

After reading No Drama Discipline by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, I have to amend that. No Drama Discipline is now my number one recommendation to parents wanting to understand what is going on with their children and how to change their way of thinking when it comes to parenting.

The authors go into enough depth about how your child’s brain works to explain while managing to write in a conversational manner which appeals to tired, frustrated parents. The book is a fast read, with enough information in early chapters to help parents begin changing how they interact with their children right away. Real life examples will appeal to many parents, helping them both to understand how to use techniques while offering hope to those attempting to make drastic changes in the way they parent.

This is a game changing book and one I highly recommend, not only to parents looking for something better, but also to parents who have been working to parent gentle from the beginning. This is also a good book to share with your parenting partner. Order your own copy and keep it handy. It might just change the way you view parenting.

Join Natural Parent Network Volunteers for Our Round Table Dicussions

NPN RTD featureDo you find yourself wishing you were more empathic with your children? Are you looking to stop reacting in the moment? Are you wanting a better way to connect with your family? Do you want to grow as a parent and a person? Or are you just tired of dealing with the drama that seems to pop up in your home? Maybe you are looking for support from others trying to raise their children in a non-violent manner. This year, please join the volunteers at the Natural Parents Network as we take an in depth look at several books in our Round Table Discussions.

We encourage you to read with us. The pace will be slow. Just like you, we are busy parenting our own children, going to activities, working (whether WOH, WAH, or SAH), and dealing with the never ending laundry, dishes, and other miscellaneous of life. But if you can’t read the book along with us, feel free to read the related posts, ask questions, and think about some of the issues raised.

As we go through various sections of these books, there will be links to blog articles by Natural Parenting Network volunteers concerning the topics presented. They may be our thoughts on specific aspects of the subject, our personal experiences, novel ideas that help us and may help others, or things with which we struggle. Parenting can be hard, but we want you to know you aren’t alone.

Are you interested? Read more about the the Round Table Discussions here and how you can join in. Be the change you want to see in your family.

NPN Volunteer Blog Blitz: Books

I am proud and honored to be volunteer with the Natural Parents Network (NPN), a community of natural-minded parents and parents-to-be where you will be informed, empowered, and inspired. When you visit the NPN’s website you can find articles and posts about Activism, Balance, Consistent Care, Ecological Responsibility, Family Safety, Feeding With Love, Gentle Discipline, Healthy Living, Holistic Health, Natural Learning, Nurturing Touch, Parenting Philosophies, Practical Home Help, Preparing for Parenting, Responding With Sensitivity, Safe Sleep, and so much more!

The volunteers who dedicate their time and energy to make NPN the outstanding resource it is also spend countless hours informing and inspiring others on their personal blogs.

This month, the Natural Parents’ Network Volunteers are sharing posts that celebrate books and reading! You will read posts that share some of our volunteers’ favorite books and/or books they recommend you read for the sheer joy of reading. Other posts outline recommended reading as it relates to a wide variety of natural parenting topics. You will also find posts which outline favorite children’s books as well as books that inspire learning or have an educational focus. And of course, no reading list would be complete without our volunteers’ favorite cookbooks and health resources!

We hope you enjoy reading these posts as much as we enjoyed writing them. We are always looking for new volunteers so please, contact us if you are interested. Just a few hours per month can help other mamas in a huge way!

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Lauren at Hobo Mama shares her review of two anthropologically minded books on motherhood and child rearing: “What Our Babies, Ourselves taught me about my baby & myself,” a look into the attachment parenting our babies have been biologically primed to expect in a book by Meredith F. Small, and “Maternal ambivalence … and why it’s ok,” sort of the darker or more realistic side of attachment parenting based on a reading of Mother Nature, by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy.

Our Babies Our SelvesIn Our Babies, Ourselves, Small writes not just as an anthropologist, wanting to observe and record human behavior and how it relates to our biological and evolutionary roots as mammals, but also from an ethnopediatrics perspective, which seeks to advise us as parents how to integrate babies’ innate needs with our culture in an infant-appropriate way. It’s one of Lauren’s favorite books for giving scientific justification for the benefits and longstanding history and cross-cultural popularity of attachment parenting.

Mother NatureMother Nature, also by an anthropologist, shares experiences of motherhood as witnessed across the world and various cultures, across history and a variety of time periods, and even across species. The text is often dark and disturbing — an unflinching look at how mothers don’t always live up to what we’ve decided (as modern Western humans) is their “nature.” While we might aspire to be self-sacrificing and perfectly nurturing, we have to acknowledge this salient truth: What babies need and what mothers need or want can be in conflict. Mothers don’t always live up to the ideals of “maternal nature” — and, Lauren would argue in this review, that can be perfectly acceptable.

You can purchase the books from these Amazon affiliate links: Our Babies, Ourselves and Mother Nature. Be sure to follow Lauren on Hobo Mama, LaurenWayne.com, her newsletter, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Google +.

 

The Hour That Matters MostJulia at A Little Bit of All of It shares her review of The Hour That Matters Most, a book that explains why the family dinner around the table is so important. She loves this book for providing families with the tools they need to get family dinners on the table and get to know your family on a deeper level as well. The book is available from Amazon. You can also find A Little Bit of All of It on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Google+

The Other Baby BookJulia also shares her review of The Other Baby Book, her absolute favorite baby book. She loves this book for presenting information on how to parent your baby outside of the mainstream and for the gentle, sometimes humorous way it is written. The book is available from Amazon.
I Love MeJoella at Fine and Fair shares her review of I Love Me!, a children’s book of Affirmations filled with simple but powerful phrases that help children build self-confidence and shape a positive world view. She loves this book for its simplicity and uplifting messages; it quickly became a favorite both in her home and to give as a gift!

Mama TalkJoella also shares her review of Mama, Talk About Our New Baby, an attachment parenting friendly way to introduce to older siblings-to-be what it will be like to have a new baby in the house. She appreciates the inclusion of breast feeding, baby wearing, and co-sleeping, which she found absent from mainstream “big sister” books. This book was instrumental in preparing her daughter to welcome to her new baby brother into their family and home! Be sure to follow Joella on her blog, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and tumblr.

 

Sometimes I Like to Curl Up in a BallMandy at Living Peacefully with Children shares her review on Sometimes I Like to Curl Up in a Ball, a picture book by Vicki Churchill and Charles Fuge. The book has been a favorite with all of her children and is one she often gives to other families. While it works for families of all styles, it particularly appeals to attachment parenting families and those exploring the joys of toddlerhood. You can purchase the book from Amazon. Be sure to follow Mandy on her blog, Facebook, and Pinterest.

P.E.T.Mandy at also shares her review on Parent Effectiveness Training P.E.T. by r. Thomas Gordon. Styled on non-violent communication, the book is a wonderful guide with effective techniques for communicating with your children and others. It is one of Mandy’s favorite, and most recommended, parenting books. You can purchase the book from Amazon.

African Babies Don't Cry : Book Review : Evie’s Kitchen by Shazzie

Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares her review of Evie’s Kitchen by Shazzie, a raw food recipe book aimed at young children and packed with natural parenting tips too. Shazzie is a raw food chef, and nutrition expert, I found her chapter on supplementation especially helpful. If you are wanting to incorporate more raw food into your child’s diet then this book is a great resource! You can purchase the book from Amazon or  Detox Your World.com. Follow Christine on her blog, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Google+.

Christine is also a huge fan of  The Body Ecology Diet by Donna Gates.  This book is the ultimate reference book if you are looking to correct inTheBodyEcologyDiet_zps4e62b10etestinal flora issues, such as Candida. Donna Gates has been researching on the topic of Candida for years, and I would call her the ultimate expert. The Body Ecology Diet, which is not a diet, but a lifestyle WILL correct your intestinal flora imbalances leaving you symptom free! You can purchase the book from Amazon.

 

Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama is a research bug, lover of all books, and someone who has a hard time putting a good book down! Today, she shares two of her favorites; Beyond the Rainbow Bridge and a collection of books about…poop.


2359098221_c691bb491bBeyond The Rainbow Bridge, Nurturing Our Children From Birth to Age Seven is a beautiful book by Barbara Patterson and Pamela Bradley. First, it is a very concise book compared to a lot of parenting books. The authors cut right to the chase and get to what really matters without a lot of fluff and fancy philosophical BS. Although their approach to parenting is heavily influenced by the work of Rudolph Steiner, the way that they share information on development, discipline, play, and health is palatable for any parent whether interested in Waldorf or not. There is so much more that I adore about this book and it really has inspired me to retool my mothering ever so slightly. I think that it is a worthwhile read for any mama who wants to create a more harmonious and gentle environment for her child(ren). By implementing many of the techniques offered by the author as well as gaining a better understanding of development and play, an opportunity to better connect with and mindfully engage your child opens up.

Where's The PoopIn the post Books About Poop, for Children and The Adults in Their Lives, Jennifer shares her top 10 books about poop! Come on! You know you are curious. And trust her, these books are all great reads and lots of fun! Who doesn’t love poop?

Review and Giveaway: Captain No Beard series, (total combined value of $90), Worldwide

This is a joint giveaway with Living Peacefully with Children and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory entry and optional bonus entries.

Carole P. Roman is offering three of our readers their own copies of the Captain No Beard series (Captain No Beard, Pepper Parrot’s Problem with Patience, and Stuck In the Doldrums) a value of $30 x 3 (combined total ARV $90).
Reviewer received a free sample for review purposes and consideration was given to NPN for hosting the review/giveaway. Links may be affiliate links.

Stuck in the Doldrums is a full color picture book for children about the continuing adventures of a young pirate named Alexander, his cousin Hallie, and a menagerie of a crew. Follow their adventure and discover the important truth inherent to all parents and caregivers – with power comes responsibility. For more reading fun, check out the rest of the Captain No Beard seriees

From our reviewer, Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children:

About the Book:

Natural Parents Network: Captain No Beard series giveaway

Stuck in the Doldrums, by Carole P. Roman, continues the tale of a young pirate’s life. Alexander, the pirate captain extraordinaire, and his cousin and first mate, Hallie, are joined by a menagerie of a crew: Mongo, the “mast-climbing monkey,” Linus, the “loud-mouthed lion,” and Fribbit, the “floppy frog.” Together they travel on their ship called the Flying Dragon, whose name was chosen for its fear-inducing qualities.

Without a wind to lift their sails, Captain No Beard and his crew find themselves marooned on a desert island, or as he says, “stuck in the doldrums.” The crew decides to make the best of the situation and sets about enjoying their day. Cloud watching, beach playing, and sand castle building top their list of activities. Seeing his crew enjoying themselves, Captain No Beard tries to steal some of the fun for himself with orders until he finds that no one wants to be around him.

Off to the ship by himself, he declares he will do everything himself. However, when a giant squid attacks the boat, he quickly realizes that he can’t go it alone and calls for help from his trusty crew. The crew is met with indecision, due to the earlier treatment received from their captain, but compassion prevails, as they vow to help first and talk to him later. With the help of the fearless crew, the Flying Dragon is saved, and Captain No Beard apologizes for his earlier actions.

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The story has merit for parents and children alike, but I have to disagree with the title “Stuck in the Doldrums: A Lesson in Sharing.” The book isn’t about sharing at all. It is about perversion of power and how we use and abuse the power and trust given to us by others. It is a reminder that others, including children, deserve to have a voice and choice in their lives. As Captian No Beard learns, “Just because you’re in charge doesn’t mean you know everything. A good captain must always consider everyone’s feelings . . . .” With less of the playful pirate lingo found in the first of the series and with drawings which are less crisp, Stuck in the Doldrums still provides an easy segue into discussing an important issue between parents and children.

About the Author:

 

Carole P. Roman is former teacher and current businesswoman. Her favorite job is that of grandmother, and she loves to snuggle up in a chair, reading stories to her loved ones. Carole is proud to be able to go on daily adventures with her grandchildren, traveling all over through books and always being home in time for dinner. As the dedication in the book reads, her grandchildren have “reminded [her] how much fun it was to go from the bottom of the sea to the most distant star. All in one day!”

 

 

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You can purchase your own Stuck in the Doldrums, along with the other book sin the series at Barnes and Noble, Amazon, or Create Space. The books sell for approximately $10 each and shipping ranges by site. Carole has another children’s book in which yoga is incorporated into every day life: I Want to Do Yoga, Too Her newest book series, If You Were Me, focuses on helping children learn about other culture and understand the global connection we all have.To stay connected with updates, Like her page on Facebook.

 

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Mandy O’Brien is a WAHM to four fantastic unschooled children. You can read a bit about their lives at Living Peacefully with Children, where she writes about equality, learning, and life.

 

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Giveaway: Captain No Beard ~ 10 Winners, $10 ARV {11.24; Worldwide}

This is a joint giveaway with Living Peacefully with Children and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only. Please find the section marked “Win it!” for the mandatory entry and optional bonus entries.

Carole P. Roman is offering ten of our readers  their own copy of Captain No Beard, a value of $10 x 10 (combined total ARV $100).

Captain No Beard is a full color picture book for children about a young pirate named Alexander, his cousin Hallie, and a menagerie of a crew. Follow their adventure and discover the important truth inherent to all children.

From our reviewer, Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children:

About the Book:

Captain No Beard, by Carole P. Roman, is a delightful tale of a young boy on an adventure of his life. Alexander, the pirate captain extraordinaire, and his cousin and first mate, Hallie, are joined by a menagerie of a crew: Mongo, the “mast-climbing monkey,” Linus, the “loud-mouthed lion,” and Fribbit, the “floppy frog.” Together they travel on their ship called the Flying Dragon, whose name was chosen for its fear-inducing qualities.

Every morning is greeted with orders of the day with pirate loving phrases such as the swabbing of decks, pumping of bilges, climbing of the mast, and the ever popular chorus of “Shiver Me Timbers!”

Alexander expects a lot from his crew, but when Hallie asks a question and points out that she won’t know an answer unless she asks, he digs down and pulls out his trusty pirate dictionary to find out. This captain business is hard work.

When a storm rolls in, the crew must work together to save themselves from falling overboard. Avoiding possible catastrophe, the calm after the storm brings a voice from below. Hallie deduces that the voice must be from a mermaid, and the crew proceeds cautiously.

Appearing on the deck of the Flying Dragon, the mermaid comes prepared, with a treasure of golden doubloon cookies and a sense of humor that all parents need.

Roman’s book is a full color picture book suitable for children of all ages. The pictures are large and bright, bringing a wonderful visual to the engaging story. I read this story with my four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 1/2, and I have to say we were all engaged.

Pirate lingo provides plenty of opportunity for audience participation! Captain No Beard has a deeper message to its older audience. As Alexander often exclaims, “Being a captain is hard work!” The book reminds us that our children, engrossed in fantasy and pretend games are also hard at work every day, learning through play.

So gather your family, and prepare to drawl some pirate lingo. A word to the wise, though? Limit your pirate voice and don’t attempt to read the entire book as a pirate. It left my throat raw and when the cheers of “Let’s read it again!” rang out, I needed a tea break.

About the Author:

 

Carole P. Roman is former teacher and current businesswoman. Her favorite job is that of grandmother, and she loves to snuggle up in a chair, reading stories to her loved ones. Carole is proud to be able to go on daily adventures with her grandchildren, traveling all over through books and always being home in time for dinner. As the dedication in the book reads, her grandchildren have “reminded [her] how much fun it was to go from the bottom of the sea to the most distant star. All in one day!”

 

 

BUY IT!

You can purchase your own Captain No Beard at Barnes and NobleAmazon, or Create Space. The book sells for approximately $10 and shipping ranges by site. Carole has another children’s book coming out soon in which yoga is incorporated into every day life: I Want to Do Yoga, Too Other adventures of Captain No Beard are also in the works. To stay connected with updates, Like her page on Facebook.

 

WIN IT!

For your own chance to win a copy of Captain No Beard from Carole P. Roman, enter by leaving a comment and using our Rafflecopter system below.

Ten winners will receive a copy of Captain No Beard. Contest is open WORLDWIDE.

MANDATORY ENTRY: Tell us about some of your children’s imaginary adventures or how they remind you to enjoy each day!

Leave a valid email address so we can contact you if you win. Email addresses in Rafflecopter are not made publicly visible. Please leave the same valid email address in your mandatory comment so we can verify entries.

This is a joint giveaway with Living Peacefully with Children and Natural Parents Network. You may enter at one site only, and we’ll be recording IP addresses to ensure that there are no duplicate entries. That said, please do visit and enjoy both sites!
BONUS ENTRIES:
See the Rafflecopter entry system for bonus entries to increase your chance of winning after completing the mandatory entry. All bonus entries are entered directly into Rafflecopter. Give it a try, and email or leave a comment if you have any questions!

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