Someone’s Hero

Welcome to the March 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Everyday Superheroes

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have talked about the remarkable people and characteristics that have touched their lives. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


My “S” emblazoned T-shirt is covered in spit-up. The tail of my sling, aka cape, has dirty little handprints, and we won’t hazard a guess as to what exactly those crunchy items that resemble boogers are. The Mom-mobile (van) looks more like it belongs to a suburbanite, with ice skates, cloth grocery bags, and extra towels in the back. I could use some super speed to take care of everything on my to-do list which seems to grow as though it was in a vortex.

My super powers are limited to making breastmilk (and humans) and throwing together edibles from whatever is on hand, along with some mad organizational/planning skills and the ability to multi-task like no one’s business. I can nurse a baby, answer the questions of my children, churn out a bit of work, and keep the household from tumbling into a chasm all at the same time.

Overall, I don’t feel much like a hero. Sometimes I become frustrated and flustered. I make mistakes. Really, sometimes I just want to quit pretending I’m a grown up. I want to cry. I want to step back and let someone else deal with the bills, the laundry, the groceries, and dealing with all of the problems that moms (and dads) deal with.

And then someone puts their arms around my neck and gives me a slobbery kiss. I watch one of my children make a breakthrough in something they were struggling with. I see them mimic my behavior, whether good or whether making something right. They tell me they love me.

It challenges me to find myself, not only for me but for them, and to work toward being a better person every day because they deserve that. So I put on my tights and my cape. I look in their eyes, and I step up because I am someone’s hero.


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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon March 11 with all the carnival links.)

  • I Am A Super Hero — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares how she learned the hard way exactly what it means to be a real super hero and not a burned out shell of a human simply pretending to be one.
  • Quiet Heroics — Heroism doesn’t have to be big and bold. Read how Jorje of Momma Jorje is a quiet hero…and how you probably are, too.
  • Not a Bang, but a Whisper {Carnival of Natural Parenting} — Meegs at A New Day talks about the different types of “superheroes,” ones that come in with a bang and ones that come in with a whisper.
  • Silent courage of motherhood in rural Cambodia — Nathalie at Kampuchea Crossings marvels at how rural Khmer women defy the odds in childbirth.
  • Super PappyMother Goutte‘s little boy met a superhero in checked slippers and Volkswagen Polo, his grand dad: Super Pappy!
  • An Open Letter to Batman — Kati at The Best Things challenges Batman to hold up his end of the deal, in the name of social justice, civic duty, and a little boy named Babe-O!
  • My Village — Kellie at Our Mindful Life reflects on the people who helped her to become her best self.
  • 5 Lessons My Kids Taught Me — Children are amazing teachers, when we only stop to listen. They remind us to choose happiness, to delight in the small things, to let go and forgive. There is so much we can learn from our children. Justine at The Lone Home Ranger shares a few of the lessons she’s learned.
  • Could you use some superpowers? — Tat at Mum in search shares a fun activity to help you connect with your own superpowers.
  • Like Fire Engines — Tam at tinsenpup tells the story of the day she saw a surprising superhero lurking in the guise of her not entirely mild-mannered four-year-old daughter.
  • Everyday Superheroes — Erica at ChildOrganics shares her list of Walker Warburg Syndrome Superheroes that have touched her life forever.
  • My Superhero of the Week: Nancy GallagherTribal Mama muses about the transcendent things her superhero mom has done.
  • My choice in natural birth does not make me a super hero — Bianca, The Pierogie Mama, discusses her thoughts on her experience with the perception of natural birth and putting those mamas on a different level. Does giving birth naturally give cause for an extra pat on the back? No! All mamas, no matter how they birth, are superheroes.
  • Someone’s Hero — Sometimes being a parent means pretending to be a grown-up, but it always means you are someone’s hero. Read Mandy’s lament at Living Peacefully with Children.
  • Growing into a Super Hero — Casey at Joyful Courage shares how owning our behavior and choosing to be a better parent, a better person, is an act of courage.
  • A Math Superhero — Kerry at City Kids Homeschooling writes that her 7-year-old daughter’s superhero is an MIT-trained mathematician.
  • It Starts With Truffula Trees And Tulips — Luschka of Diary of a First Child takes a hard look at the realities of her relationship with her mother, and through this post goes on a journey of discovery that ends in a surprise realisation for her.
  • We Don’t Need an Excuse — Maria Kang (aka “Hot Mom”) asks women #WhatsYourExcuse for not being in shape? Dionna at Code Name: Mama asks Hot Mom what her excuse is for not devoting her life to charity work, or fostering dozens of stray dogs each year, or advocating for the needs of others. Better yet, Code Name: Mama says, how about we realize that every woman has her own priorities. Focus on your own, and stop judging others for theirs.
  • It’s not heroic when you’re living it — Lauren at Hobo Mama knows from the inside that homeschooling does not take a hero, and that much of what we choose as parents is simply what works best for us.
  • Superheroes, princesses and preschoolers — Garry at Postilius discusses why his preschool-age son is not ready for comic book superheroes.
  • The Loving Parents of Children with Special Needs – Everyday Superheroes — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares posts with resources for parents of children with special needs along with posts to help others know how to support parents of children with special needs.
  • Everyday Empathy — Mommy Giraffe of Little Green Giraffe shares why her secret superpower is everyday empathy.
  • The Simplicity of Being a Superhero — Ana at Panda & Ananaso explains what superheroes mean to her wise three-year-old.
  • My Father, The Hero — Fathers are pretty amazing; find out why Christine at The Erudite Mom thinks hers is the bees knees.

Why I Stopped Saying “Merry Christmas”

Some may be surprised to hear that I am not a Christian. Others who are aware may be surprised to hear that there was a time when I was one. The topic isn’t one I talk about a lot. It isn’t because of being ostracized, which believe me, happens. Ask that an all-inclusive event not be labelled with one holiday, and you have your character attacked. Admit the fact to the woman at Einstein Brothers who is hounding you for parenting advice because your family is so peaceful and respectful, and she will run for all it is worth. Explain to your in-laws that your family celebrates something else and hear ranting and screaming with some declarations that you are solely responsible for killing baby Jesus (or is that just my in-laws?). No, the reason I don’t talk about it a lot is because it just doesn’t matter. Treating people with respect doesn’t require that we share religious (or not) beliefs. I am not out to convert anyone away from their religious philosophy.

Back to the phrase “Merry Christmas,” though. I didn’t stop saying it because I am no longer a Christian. (Please don’t try to convert me. I have studied religion in depth. I am confident with where I am in my journey.) I stopped saying “Merry Christmas” back when I was still a Christian. Why? you ask. The reason is simple. I realized that when I said those two simple words, no matter how well-meaning, the supposed happiness that I was wishing the person was contingent. It was contingent on their celebration of the holiday I was specifying. It was about my holiday and therefore about me. If you know the other person and what they believe and celebrate, that can be fine. They share the same holiday with you, and therefore it is also about them. However, said to someone whose beliefs you are unsure of or whom you know celebrates something different, that contingency makes a big difference.

So, back when I was a Christian, I stopped saying “Merry Christmas.” I began saying “Happy Holidays!” It worked for friends who celebrated other holidays, even if that was New Year’s Day or something else. It worked for strangers I knew nothing about. I genuinely was wishing the other person happiness, with no contingency, without making it about me or my beliefs. Now, I sometimes even just say “Happiness to you!”

So, during this cold winter season (in the Northern hemisphere, heat of summer in the Southern), I wish you all happiness!

Giving Gifts that Keep on Giving

Welcome to the December edition of the Simply Living Blog CarnivalGift Giving cohosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children and Laura at Authentic Parenting. This month, we write about taking the stress out of gift giving.

In the spirit of giving, it can be easy for well-meaning relatives to go a little (or a lot) overboard with gifts. While the love and thought behind gift giving is generally welcome, the mountians of stuff can easily become overwhelming. If you are trying to convince relatives to do something different, understand that this is often a shift in mentality. While some of your loved ones may immediately embrace a simpler style, others may need time. If you are looking at giving gifts to others, consider the long-term aspects of those gifts.
Consumables – Consumable products are often a great idea for people who are still looking to physically hand over a gift. The giver gets something to wrap up and hand over, and the receiver won’t have the item lingering for years to come. Assumming the consumables are actually something that will be used, they will be gone soon and relieve you from having to purchase that item for a while. Special food, with considerations of allergies or lifestyle, are great for those neighbor, co-worker, teacher, or student gifts. Will your children be receiving items from relatives? If they ask for a list, consider telling them about art supplies your children like to use.
Experiences – Experiences make fantastic gifts and the memories from them will be much longer lasting. These can be one time events, such as tickets to a show, or memberships to museums, science centers, or zoos which will last a family an entire year. Experience gifts don’t have to cost a lot of money. If you are on a budget and want to give an experience gift, consider doing something with the special person in your life – bake favorite cookies, go on a special hike, or even camp out on the living room floor. Take some photos to help remember the special time. You could even fill a photo book of your special times together throughout the year.
Spread it Out – Similar to memberships which can be enjoyed throughout the year, other great gifts are magazine subscriptions to favorite publications. The magazines can be enjoyed as they come and then passed on for others to enjoy, limiting the clutter in the home. You could also set up a special date night or other get together each month. Some prior planning with the special days written down make a great gift.
Heartfelt – A key aspect of gift giving when I was growing up was to really think about what the recipient might like. Rather than grabbing gift cards or filling up with stuff, items given were generally handmade, and much thought was put into what the person might need or truly want. One gift out of a hundred will not be remembered, whether handmade or store bought. Make it something memorable.
Family Gifts – Consider giving a family gift rather than several individual gifts. Nicer board games (Rio Grande, Days of Wonder, Z-Man Games, etc.) may cost more, but giving fewer gifts will save you money. Plus, the game will encourage family time and connection every time it is played.
Gift giving should be about showing someone you care. Plan ahead, plan for your budget, and get creative to keep yourself from stressing out about what should be a nice gesture.

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Thank you for visiting the Simply Living Blog Carnival cohosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children and Laura at Authentic Parenting. Read about how others are simplifying gift giving. Check back to see what we have in store for 2014!

  • Keeping Gifts Simple – JW at True Confessions of a Real Mommy shares a few simple ways to limit gift giving and keep your holiday about the thought over the thing..
  • The Mindful Holiday Giving Guide – How many times have you carefully chosen a present for someone and find you missed the mark? Zoie at TouchstoneZ identifies key ways to give mindful holiday gifts that will be truly appreciated.
  • Giving Gifts that Keep Giving – At Living Peacefully with Children, Mandy shares ideas to help gift givers think outside the (gift) box with gifts that keep on giving.
  • Greening the Giving Spirit - Momma Giraffe at Little Green Giraffe writes more eco-friendly Christmas wish-list for her family this year – passing on plastic and gift wrap and saying yes to memories, moments and experience.
  • No Toys? : Giving Our Children Gifts that Make Memories – This year, Jacquie at My Blessings Homeschool and her husband decided to do things a little differently with gifts that will make lasting memories instead of the toys that will be lost, broken or forgotten.
  • Quick and Easy DIY Gift: Flower Petal Sugar – At Authentic Parenting, Laura whips up a quick and easy last minute gift.

Do you have traditions or methods revolving around simplifying gifts? Do you have a great tutorial on how to make something? We want to hear about it! Just link up your new and old posts before January 16, 2014.


Building the Community You Desire

Welcome to the December 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: The More Things Change . . .

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared stories and wisdom about life changes.


They say friends are the family you choose. The difference is that family is automatically there (in some matter) and making friends can take some time. My husband and I have moved a few times in our 15+ years of marriage. The most recent move was when we packed up our 4 1/2 children plus a dog and moved to a state we had never been to and where we knew no one. We lived in a hotel for two months before closing on our house last month. That was an experience!

Living in a hotel in a state you have never been does not make it easy to meet people. However, we started trying to feel out groups of like-minded families and make some connections before we were in our new home. Since moving, besides dealing with boxes that were mis-labelled and mis-packaged by the moving company (it’s a scavenger hunt in every box when a box may say kitchen but contains a few items from the garage, a few from the downstairs family room, a few from the bedroom, and absolutely nothing from the kitchen), we have been working to start up our local network.

This isn’t the first time that we have had to do it, and honestly, it probably won’t be the last. It takes work, possibly more so for this family of introverts, but in the end, knowing we have friends we can rely on and providing opportunities for our children is worth it. More so than that, we are working to help others get similar groups started up in their areas. We know what a resource a great network of families can be.

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon December 10 with all the carnival links.)

  • Mature StudentAmber Strocel is embarking on a new adventure in 2014, by returning to a space in her life she thought she’d left behind – that of being a university student.
  • And then there were four — Jillian at Mommyhood learned how quickly love can grow when welcoming a second child to the family.
  • Handling Change As A Mother (And Why That Takes Things To A Different Level) — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares how she helps her young daughter navigate change and why it is so important, as a mother, to gauge her own reactions to change.
  • Without Dad-One Year Later — Erica at ChildOrganics shares how her life has changed one year after losing her husband suddenly.
  • Family Ties — Lori at TEACH through Love realized that her most significant, most painful wound paved the way for her to share her greatest gift.
  • Rootless — After Dionna @ Code Name: Mama‘s parents packed up their home and moved to Florida this fall, she is feeling rootless and restless.
  • A Letter to My Mama Self in the Swirl of Change — Sheila Pai of A Living Family shares a letter she wrote to herself to capture and remember the incredible changes from the year, and invites you to do the same and share!
  • Junctionssustainablemum explains how her family has dealt with a complete change of direction this year.
  • Planning, Parenting, and Perfection — Becca at The Earthling’s Handbook explains how most of the plans she made for her adult life have worked out differently than she planned, but she’s ended up getting a lot of what she really wanted.
  • Why First Grade Means Growing Up… for Both Me and My Daughter — Donna at Eco-Mothering discovers that her daughter’s transition into first grade is harder as a parent.
  • First Year of Mothering — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot reflects on the quiet change that took her by surprise this year.
  • Building the Community YOu Desire — A recent move has Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children working toward setting up a new support network.
  • Slowing down in 2013 — A car fire and a surprise diagnosis of Down syndrome made 2013 a very different year than the one Crunchy Con Mommy and family were expecting!
  • The Seven Year Cycle — After 7 intense years of baking, birthing and breastfeeding 6 kids, Zoie at TouchstoneZ wonders, “Will I be enough for what comes next?”
  • Rebirth — Kellie of Our Mindful Life has found that each of her births leaves her a different person.
  • When a Hobby Becomes a Business — This year, new doors opened for That Mama Gretchen‘s hobby of writing and blogging – it has turned into a side business. She’s sharing a bit about her journey and some helpful tips in case you’re interested in following the same path.
  • 5 Tips for Embracing a Big Change in Your Family — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells about a big change in her family and shares tips that have always helped her family embrace changes.
  • Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes — Ana at Panda & Ananaso ruminates on how having a child changed her priorities.
  • Homeostasis — Lauren at Hobo Mama is finding that even as elements shift in her life — in cosleeping, homeschooling, breastfeeding, & more — they mostly remain very familiar.
  • Sally go round the sun — A new baby brings joy and unexpected sadness for Douglas at Friendly Encounters, as she is diagnosed with a rare genetic condition.
  • Embrace it — Laura from Pug in the Kitchen muses about the changes in her family this year and how she can embrace them . . . as best she can anyway.
  • Big Change; Seamless but Big — Jorje of Momma Jorje shares how one of the biggest changes of her life was also a seamless transition.

It’s Here! Didymos DidyTai Giveaway


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This giveaway is unique. The Didymos Didy Tai is a wonderful marriage between a woven wrap and a Buckle carrier. It’s Super fast (and easy to learn) like the buckle carrier and snugly like a wrap. The DidyTai (or wrap-tai) has a criss-cross back for weight support. This is the only Mei Tai style carrier that Caribou Baby recommends for newborns because of the tremendous back support – and the ability to carry the baby legs out in a deep squat – from day 1.

The DidyTai is versatile. Its toggle base allows for a great newborn hold and for the mobility of an older baby.


Other features of the Didy Tai include:

  • Reversible two-color carrier
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  • Special, diagonally stretchable cloth
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  • Pure organic cotton
  • Non-toxic dyes
  • Made in Germany
  • Machine washable
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Please enter the Giveaway below for your chance to win a Didymos Didy Tai From Caribou Baby RV $190. US and CAN residents only.




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Simply Living Blog Carnival December 2013 Call for Submissions: Gift Giving

Welcome to the Simply Living Blog Carnival cohosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children, Laura at Authentic Parenting, Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy, and Joella at Fine and Fair. We hope that you will join us on the third Tuesday of each month as we share posts about simple living in our lives. Submission deadline will be the second Tuesday of each month.

Gift Giving Gift giving is the cause of much stress for many families. Some families make handmade gifts while others find it more simple to purchase items. Gift exchanges and drawing names add more gifts to find, and budget often plays a part for many families. What do you do to keep gift giving simple? Submission deadline: December 10. Carnival posting: December 17.

To submit an article to the blog carnival, please e-mail your submission to mandy{at}livingpeacefullywithchildren{dot}com anddelilahfineandfair{at}gmail{dot}com, and fill out the webform by December 10. Please write a new, unpublished piece for the carnival. We will e-mail you with instructions before the carnival date. We ask that you publish your post on December 17.

We want you to use creativity and to express yourself as you see fit. To that end, you are welcome to post at your discretion with a few guidelines in mind. Please be respectful in your posts. Avoid excessive profanity and poor grammar or spelling. As the co-hosts of the carnival are all advocates of peaceful living and gentle parenting, we ask that you not post about non-gentle practices or violence toward others. While we will not be editing your articles, we do reserve the right to not add your post to the carnival if it is not on topic, is poorly written, or goes against the guidelines which have been set forth.

Blog carnivals are a great way to generate blog traffic and build a supportive community. Your blog will receive links from many other blogs and you and your readers will have the opportunity to discover other blogs with similar goals in mind. Please join us as we embrace Simply Living through Simple Living! We hope you will consider joining us every month as we discuss ways we simplify our lives.

Authentic Parenting Blog Hop: Toxic Relationships

APBC - Authentic ParentingThe Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival, co-hosted by Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children and Laura at Authentic Parenting, is hosting a blog hop this month onToxic Relationships.

Have you ever been in a relationship that was so bad it affected your whole life? As parents, we should be even more careful picking the people surrounding us, because the way we engage in a relationship guides our children in the way they see the world. How to you handle dealing with toxic relationships? How do you make your relationships better?

To participate, just add your old or new post to the linky below sometime before December 27, 2013. If you would like to share anonymously, let us know and we will find a safe place for you to share your post. This is a touchy subject but an important one.

Blog hops are a great way to generate blog traffic and build a supportive community. Your blog will receive links from many other blogs and you and your readers will have the opportunity to discover other blogs with similar goals in mind. Please join us as we embrace Authentic Parenting! We hope you will consider joining us every month as we discuss ways to bring authenticity into our lives and our parenting.

Want to help host this blog hop on your own blog? Grab the code and share everyone’s posts with your readers!

Green Black Friday Deals: Go Paperless!

PaperlessKitchen.comAs part of the Natural Parents Network Gift Guide and Giveaway, I was able to work with Paperless Kitchen, a company dedicated to helping customers lower their environmental impact with reusable products, something I can truly get behind. You can still enter to win an 8 pack of their awesome Skoy Clothes, but I have other great news from them. They are making going green during Black Friday weekend even easier.

PaperlessKitchen Skoy Cloth Four PackThe company is offering 15% off non-sale products in their store this weekend, but just for Living Peacefully with Children readers,  by using code livingpeacefully you can save 20% on all non-sale items in the store! Plus, besides receiving free shipping on every order, any order placed in November will also receive a 4 pack of Paperless Kitchen Skoy Cloths! It is a great time to stock up on some reusable products for yourself or to give as gifts.

From 10 pm tonight through Cyber Monday, the following products are being offered at a 50% discount!  Just use code paperless50 to receive this super low price on the following items. Check them out:


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These signature Skoy Clothes hold up to 15 times their own weight in liquid spills. One cloth is the equivalent of 15 rolls of paper towels, so if you are trying to kick the paper towel habit, this is a great way to start. They are machine washable and dsihwasher safe, so there is no excuse for not trying reusable cloths. When they have outlived their usefulness, simply toss them in your compost bin. They are 100% biodegradable and compostable!



2-Tier Recycled Cotton Carrier Bag - Forest Green2-Tier Recycled Cotton Carrier Bag – Forest Green

These fantastic cotton carrier bags which work with To-Go Ware are not only made from cotton, they are made from recycled cotton! To-Go Ware uses cotton that would otherwise sit in landfills, while providing good-paying jobs to artisans in developing nations. Their products are dyed using all natural pigments and are hand cut and sewn. It’s an attractve product you can feel good about.



Thinkbaby Blue Bento Box


Think Baby Bento Box

With a durable stainless steel lining and a polypropylene lid, this little Bento box can take a beating. It is perfect for packing up some finger foods for your little one or packing up a picnic lunch. Fodd on the ge never looked so great.  Measuring 14 centimeters by 3-1/2 centimeters by 10 centimeters in size, the Thinkbaby BPA Free Bento Box is large enough to hold up to 9 ounces of food, and even better, the tight fitting lid not only keeps foods fresh, you won’t have to worry about spills! Also available in orange.



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The Kids Konserve lunch kit has everything you need to pack a healthy, and environmentally friendly, lunch. Each kit contains:

• recycled cotton lunch bag with Velcro closure
• food kozy sandwich wrap (LDPE #4 plastic), doubles as a placemat
• 2 leak-proof stainless steel 8-oz. containers (lids are LDPE #4 plastic)
• 13-oz. 304 (18/8) stainless steel water bottle
• recycled cotton napkin
• recycled aluminum nametag

Lunch Sack is 7″ wide x 10.5″ tall x 5″ gusset. BPA-free, PVC-free, phthalate-free and lead-free!

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If your house is anything like mine (4 kids and another on the way), we go through a LOT of napkins. That could mean a lot of trees cut down, but reusable cloth napkins make me feel better about our impact on the environment while saving me from scrubbing the underside of the table quite as often, a veritable magnet for messy little hands! With Mydrap napkins, you can even feel a little chic while you use them. Each Mydrap napkin bundle comes with 20 –  8inch by 8 inch 100 percent cotton napkins. Available in ecru, black, gray, or lipstick red, you can mix it up for family gatherings or go with a single color. My favorite is the gray (hides dirt and looks ultra-cool).

And of course, there are all of the other great products sold by Paperless Kitchen, all at a discount to you at 20% off this weekend with code livingpeacefully. Just in case you were wondering, none of the above links are affiliate links. At a time filled with consumerism, false marketing, and mass packaging going into landfills, Paperless Kitchen and their products are something I feel good about recommending.

All Deals Start Tonight!

I May be a Sh*tty Feminist

My post calling out Goldie Blox for their, in my opinion, ingenuine marketing tactics ruffled a few feathers in the feminist world. There are many who believe that any attempt at changing the stereotypes is a step in the right direction. After watching part of the TED talk by Debbie Sterling, founder and CEO, I agree that she had good intentions. I just don’t think they were manifested by either the product nor the advertising campaign. I am not alone in my thinking. Besides the countless comments I have seen online regarding how the company claims to be shedding stereotypes for girls when in reality they are reinforcing the pastel/pink, princess/beauty pageant, toys for girls mentality, along with pitting girls who like pink and such against “smart girls” (their words), others are writing about the subject on their blogs. You can read some other thoughts on what I admittedly call pseudo-feminism, which is what I believe this to be – a company using the idea of feminism to sell a product (it all comes down to $$$) while conforming to the very stereotypes it claims to be sloughing off. Here are just a few:

The ads are popular, I admit, but I’m not about to begin jumping up and down. Perhaps there is a need for a gentle persuasion amoung our society to initiate change in order for girls to be equal to boys. I don’t think a pink-washed (or pastel-washed), cheaply made toy with a horribly written story is enough. I won’t be jumping on the bandwagon, and if people think I am a sh*tty feminist because of that, they are entitled to their opinions. I have children now, and I want them to be afforded the same opportunities regardless of their genders.

Do you remember this ad from LEGO when LEGOs were merely marketed to children rather than boys (and more recently their girls’ line)? Neither do I. It was before my time, which just tells me that the slow, placating movement for girls’ equality isn’t working. We are moving farther away from breaking out of the stereotype. Sure, there is a place for products like GoldieBlox, just as there is a place for dolls (both my sons and daughters have them), capes, playsilks, and more. There is also a place for women and men who want to applaud small changes in society. That doesn’t mean that those of us fighting for change on a bigger scale by calling out companies who claim to be doing something they aren’t, are somehow damaging the feminist cause of equality for all. There is a phrase that says “mild-mannered women seldom make history.” The fact is, women seldom make history. I’m not out to make history, though. I just want  to make certain that my children’s futures aren’t merely repeats of a discriminatory history. Forget the separte but equal cr*p.

So, consider me, or my brand of feminism, sh*tty if you like. I don’t care. I plan to continue calling out companies which put money over everything else. There is a need, and I have no intentions of being silent.