The problem with punitive discipline is that while it may appear to stop specific behaviors, it does not address the underlying cause of the behavior and therefore does not resolve the true conflict. Working with your child to address the true cause of the conflict and come up with possible solutions allows your child to delve deeper into the conflict in order to understand it and work on conflict resolution and problem solving, which then leads to self-discipline.
living peacefully with children 
Doesn’t it just feel so much better all around to connect with your child, attend to feelings, offer comfort, compassion, and kind advice. Why add pain where pain already exists?